What, In The Heck, Are Core Beliefs?

Here’s a little rant I thought up as I pondered a post for the blog.  It’s kind of a distillation of some of the things I’ve learned.  Or I could say that, it’s a context that I found useful and relevant in reviewing my life’s path.  This subject is so dear to my heart because it had such a profound affect on my life that I want to share it with others.  I felt it was too long for one post so I’m posting part one now and I’ll post part two next week.

So, here it is, part one;

What, in the heck, are core beliefs?  If the word “core” means the central part of something, then “core beliefs” are thoughts that are central to our being.  We TRULY believe them, no matter what.  These thoughts can be about our self, others, our environment and about life in general.  Can you think of some things that you TRULY believe no matter what?  Of course, we all can.

Core beliefs can be positive and uplifting.  Do you know people who are genuinely happy, upbeat and unflappable no matter what is going on in their environment?  They maneuver through life with ease and grace.  If you asked them what their beliefs about life were, I highly doubt they would say, “Life sucks and then we die.”  I’m guessing, they would say, “Life is an awesome adventure full of variety and wonderment.”

How many of us truly live with that thought in the midst of the daily challenges of work life, home life, parenting life, financial responsibilities or living with disease.  How many of us can truly say and believe that life is an awesome adventure when their on the verge of bankruptcy or some other calamity has struck?

So, am I being “realistic” or not?  Is it possible to live a happy, upbeat, unflappable life no matter what?  And…I’m going to add here, without alcohol or some other mind numbing form of coping mechanism that many of us seek.  Now, now, don’t misunderstand me, there is nothing wrong with a few drinks every now and then for those who don’t have an allergy (if you know what I mean).  Is it possible to live just as we were when we were young children?  When nothing was good or bad and the only things we cared about were playing, exploring and having something to eat and drink.  We were happy.  We could be sitting in a pile of crap, but we were TRULY happy.

We were truly happy just being alive and enjoying the moment playing.  We weren’t thinking about the pile of crap we were sitting in.  Now that we’re all grown up, we can think.  We can make judgments about ourselves, our life and our environment.  We can let others make judgments and we can believe them too.  We can take thoughts and turn them into beliefs that we hold tightly in the core of our being.  Some serve us and some don’t.

The core beliefs that don’t serve us create the blockages or impediments to fulfilling our desires.  Some of these beliefs are unconscious and not readily available to uncover.  However, in my case, they really weren’t unconscious.  I knew I had certain unhelpful thoughts, I just kept stuffing them trying to “ignore it and it’ll go away.”

Truth is they don’t.  They run in the background while we’re trying to go about our daily life.  It is from the background that they sabotage our every effort to find happiness, success and true love.  It is from the background that they wreak havoc on our health.

Positive affirmations and positive thinking won’t override unhelpful core beliefs.  We can try to be positive as much as we want, it may help somewhat.  Buying a new car, house or boat, won’t override unhelpful core beliefs.  Getting a new boyfriend, girlfriend or moving to a new city, won’t override unhelpful core beliefs.

To experience a dramatic shift that will be life changing we need to have willingness, awareness, acknowledgement and acceptance, then we need to release and take action.  At least, that’s been my experience.  A short while ago, I came into possession of a book called, “The Keys” by Sharon Quirt and Denise Marek.  The book includes some of the ideas that I recognized when the “AHA” moment I had, uncovered core beliefs that kept me stuck.  In fact, it seems that everywhere I turn now; I’m greeted with information that validates and solidifies my personal experience further.

Next week, I’ll expand further on the dramatic shift part because it is crucial to the emergence of a new attitude in me and if it works for me it can work for others too.

Thank you for reading and have a wonderful day!

By the way, if you’re interest in internet marketing, I have a post on my blog Personal Transformation Enthusiast that you may like to read.

Copyright 2010, Marianne Irvine and Grandeurvision, All rights reserved.  Excerpts may be used with reference to the author and website.

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2 thoughts on “What, In The Heck, Are Core Beliefs?

  1. You describe what I’ve experienced. Positive thinking never helped until I was willing to delve into and question my core beliefs. It was often painful, but my life has greatly expanded since.

    I think I wasn’t even fully aware of the progress I’ve made in my personal growth until I (recently) became the sounding board for a friend who is going through life-changing turmoil. He is where I was 10 years ago. It can be frustrating to listen to him and watch him suffer, when I know what he needs to do to improve things…but he is not ready to hear it, so I just listen.

    • Thank you for sharing, Nancy. I think this stuff should be taught in schools, along with a few other key points the education systems are missing. Knowing when to listen and when to blurt out the answer I have for a persons life has been a challenge for me. Frustrating, as you say. BTW, it would be great if you wanted to share a personal story of transformation on the other PTE blog. Just let me know. Have a wonderful day!

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