My one hundred day learning about love challenge is three-quarters over. It seems like it was just last week that I posted part two of teachings from the Dalai Lama. I was shocked to realize it was twenty-five days ago.
But even though one hundred days is only twenty-five days away, I’ll continue this learning about love challenge beyond and see what miracles unfold.
Most of you know the last two posts focused on the teachings of the Dalai Lama. In Learning about Love: Day 48, we learned that according to His Holiness:
- The purpose of life is to be happy.
- We achieve happiness through mental peace.
- Mental peace comes from the development of love and compassion.
- Love and compassion is developed through caring for the happiness of others and cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others.
- Whether we want to admit it or not, the truth is, we are interdependent with one another.
- Mutual cooperation is evident in nature.
- When babies and children are raised in unhappy homes where affection, cuddling and love are withheld they have impaired development and lack the ability for love.
- “the affection and respect of others are vital for our happiness.” Dalai Lama
Then, we learned in Learning about Love: Day 50:
- Our need for love is the foundation of our existence because our existence is dependent on the help (love) of others.
- The main cause of depression is lack of the affection (compassion/love) from others.
- Obstacles to the development of compassion are; an innate self-centeredness, desire and attachment, personal neediness.
- Compassion is not only an emotional response. It’s a reasoned firm commitment toward another that doesn’t change when they behave negatively.
Now, we learn how to develop compassion.
First off, the Dalai Lama is quick to point out that developing this kind of compassion is not easy at all.
His Holiness appeals to the power of human reasoning. Regardless of the vast differences in personality, character traits and behaviors, each one of us is a human being. Each one of us has a desire for happiness and wishes to avoid suffering. Each one of us has a right to happiness and avoid suffering. All human beings are equal in their right to obtain happiness.
“Now, when you recognize that all beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it, you automatically feel empathy and closeness for them. Through accustoming your mind to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others: the wish to help them actively overcome their problems. Nor is this wish selective; it applies equally to all. As long as they are human beings experiencing pleasure and pain just as you do, there is no logical basis to discriminate between them or to alter your concern for them if they behave negatively.”
He states that we have such trouble developing this kind of compassion because we are attached to feeling independent and self-existent. (I think the Dalai Lama is saying that we think we are the only ones that matter. It’s all about ME way of thinking.)
How do we start developing compassion? The Dalai Lama answers:
- Remove anger and hatred.
- Develop faculties of reason and patience.
- When a problem occurs, remain humble. Be sincere and concerned the outcome is fair.
- It is possible to adopt a firm stand while maintaining compassion. One may act strongly without anger.
- Help prevent others from suffering the consequences of their own acts.
- Consider enemies your best teacher. Be grateful for this.
- Practice makes perfect.
- Be concerned for your friends. Help them. Serve them. Make more friends.
- When we loose our status, health and finances, we learn what true friendship is.
- Greet all people you meet as a brother or sister because we all share an identical need for love.
- A sincere and open heart brings self-worth and confidence.
- Develop good human qualities.
This brings me to the end of writing about love and compassion from the Dalai Lama. I think it’s time I went out and practiced now.
I hope you enjoyed this post as well as the last two posts on the teachings of the Dalai Lama. Please visit the link below (source) to read the entire article as I have only provided a summary here on the blog.
Source: His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama of Tibet website.
I wish to express my sincere thank you to His Holiness for the work he does in this world. I have a much better understanding of how to develop my capacity for compassion now.
- Learning about Love: Day 50 (grandeurvision.wordpress.com)
- Learning about Love: Day 48 (grandeurvision.wordpress.com)
- 10 Pieces of Wisdom from the Dalai Lama’s Twitter Feed (ecorazzi.com)