Learning about Love: Day 43

Pink (blurry) flower.

I love having blog-neighbours! Each one of you elevates me with your beautiful inspiring comments. I feel much better today. Thank you all.

I think I see how I got off track over the last while.

First off, my focus shifted. Activities I really like to do and that energize me took a back seat to activities that drain me and that I don’t like all that much.  I moved away from the path that makes me the happiest.

Second, as I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I let negative thoughts about my life affect my feelings. Thoughts such as, “My life should be better than it is. I should have a successful career by now. Everyone zooms past me. I shouldn’t have to live below the poverty level. I should have better health by now. My life’s been the same forever. Will I ever “make it”?”

Waaah. Waaah. Waaah. Whew! It’s exhausting! The mind is so funny.

I think I hear Byron Katie utter, “Can you find a stress-free reason to keep those thoughts?”

“No, Katie,  I don’t think I can.”

In response to Linda Willows comment on yesterday’s post, I wrote, “When I look back over my entire life, I realize that on one level, not much has changed. Although I live my life in a more conscious way now, sometimes I feel that I’m just doing the same things only with more awareness. The actual state or external conditions of my life is exactly as they were all those years ago. Sometimes, I wonder about fate. Could it really be possible that we choose our life before birth. I wonder what others think about this.”

Fate? Destiny? Could this be the mind’s attempt to explain why I’m not where I think I should be.

Later, I went to visit Cathy at Treatment Talk. Her post, 25 Quotes From Cheryl Strayed, Author of “Wild”, got me thinking that maybe my external life hasn’t changed much because I haven’t challenged myself enough.  Maybe I need to do something way way outside my comfort zone. I don’t know. I think it’s worth pondering.

Cheryl Strayed, hiked the Pacific Crest Trail, alone. Cathy’s daughter ventured to a wilderness camp and spent one of the night’s in the wilderness. All. By. Herself.  Wow!

What do you think? Does your life change much? Have you done anything that’s way outside your comfort zone? Any thoughts on fate? Destiny?

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Learning about Love: Day 14

In nature.

“Happiness is when I am loving!” ˜ Lester Levenson (1909 – 1994)

This is another story that some of my blog readers may already be familiar with as I wrote about Lester Levenson in an article I posted on my other blog, Miracle Mama.

Lester experienced a serious heart attack when he was forty-two years old. The doctor’s told him there was nothing they could do for him and sent him home with advice telling him not to exert himself. By my calculations that would have occurred in 1951.

Deeply depressed, Lester thought about ending his life. Thankfully, he began to contemplate the meaning of his life. Lester wondered, “What is happiness?”

He pondered all of his past relationships and incidents where he was happy and it dawned on him, “Happiness is when I am loving!”

Lester noticed that when he was unhappy he felt a lack of love and expected others to make him feel happy and loved.

During his contemplations he noticed times when he felt hate toward others. Lester wondered if he could turn this hate into love toward the other, not for the other, but for himself.

Over the course of a few months, Lester dissolved all of the hate and negativity he harbored from past scenarios. He worked at dissolving all of his resentments and hurt feelings.

He worked through his entire life bit by bit and as he did he became stronger and stronger, happier and happier.

Within three months, Lester had released so much of his negativity that he experienced a blissful state of joy that made him feel light and everything became extremely beautiful.

Lester continued to work with the blissful state until he fell into a state of undisturbed stillness and quietness where he found the essence of every living thing − Beingness. “Everything was It; every person was It.”

Lester’s story (click here to read) is so much in line with Anita Moorjani’s near death experience (click here to read) and so many other stories that have crossed my path.  It’s hard to ignore their experiences.

Do you know of stories like Lester’s and Anita’s? Do you experience or has anyone you know experienced the state of Beingness as described by Lester and Anita?

Information update:  I’ll be taking a short break from the blogosphere for a few days to focus on my spiritual practice, health and catch up on some work.Will let you know how thing go when I get back later in the week. Thank you so much for accompanying me on this journey to learn about love. I really appreciate it! Wishing you a wonderful love-filled week.

Learning about Love: Day 13

image courtesy of Linda Willows.wordpress.com

Hello my learning about love companions!

I found a beautiful poem to share today. The title is, “Love is Still” ˜ Inspirations by Linda Willows. Please click here to read.

As I perused Linda’s site, I felt calmed by the beauty and love shining forth from the pages.  I hope you have time to take a peek.

Wishing you a love-filled day.

Learning about Love: Day 12

If there is anyone who could speak on the topic of unconditional love from personal experience it would be Anita Moorjani.

You may know Anita’s story. Some of my readers have read a few of my blogs where I mentioned Anita’s story and posted an interview (click here to read).

If you are new to this story, Anita Moorjani went into a coma due to the effects of stage four cancer (lymphoma). While in the coma, Anita had a near death experience during which she felt an incredible unconditional love that she had never felt before. Anita explains that she became aware of who she truly was and saw that we’re all connected, that we are all One.

Anita awoke from the coma and went on to experience a miraculous recovery from stage four lymphoma. Within six months she looked the picture of vibrant health and gave talks to hundreds of people about her experience.

Anita came face to face with the Love that created us and saw the Truth of our being.

Here is a short two-minute video where Anita share’s a snippet of her NDE experience.

I am so grateful for people like Anita who share their inspiring experiences with the world. It helps to validate my own experiences and keeps me motivated to stay on course.

It’s been more than a few months since I’ve read Anita’s book, “Dying to be Me.” I think it’s time for a re-read.

Thanks again for reading, liking and commenting. I really appreciate the encouragement. Wishing everyone a peace and joy day.

Learning about Love: Day 11

Life expressions.

Welcome to another lovely day! My friend mentioned that she did not receive an email notification for yesterday’s post. So — if you missed Day 10 click here to read.

I think I mentioned that I’m reading the book, “Practicing the Sacred Art of Listening – A Guide to Enrich Your Relationships and Kindle Your Spiritual Life”. Kay Lindahl, the author writes;

“Learning to truly listen to one another is the beginning of new understanding and compassion, which deepens and broadens our sense of community.”

Lindahl goes on to say that by truly listening to another we are loving them and that the other feels loved by the presence we bring to their dialogue.

This truth was further validated last evening when I listened to an Eckhart Tolle talk with a friend.

Tolle was speaking on bringing present moment awareness into everyday activities like working, preparing food, driving, shopping etc. etc.

He basically said that when you give your undivided attention to someone, they feel special; loved.

What do you think? Do you feel loved or special when someone deeply listens to you? Can you tell when someone isn’t listening to you? How does it make you feel?

Practice for the week:  Bring present moment awareness into daily activities by; focus awareness to the breath, feel the aliveness of the inner body, become aware of sense perceptions.  Repeat often during the day. Post sticky notes as reminders. Good Luck Friends.

I’ll let you know how I do with this.

Once again, thank you so much for accompanying me on this journey. I really appreciate the support and wonderful comments. 🙂 Wishing everyone a really awesome day.

If you are new to this blog and wonder what this is all about, I’ve given myself a 100 day “Learning about Love” challenge. So — for the next 100 days, it’s all about love. My good friend calls it a “love makeover” (hehehe).

I created a Facebook page for The Meaning for my Life to build a community where like-minded individuals can share the meaning for their life as well as items of inspiration to help keep us focused on Love, Life and Presence. Just give us a ‘Like’ and your in (hehe). The Like button is in the right sidebar under ‘My Story’ pages.

Learning about Love: Day 7

Peace And Love

“Who, being loved, is poor?” — Oscar Wilde

Today, I’d like to explore the word ‘reverence’.

According to The Free Dictionary.com, ‘reverence’ is a feeling of profound awe and respect and often love; veneration. It’s also an act of showing respect, especially a bow or curtsy.

I’m reading a book titled “A Tree Full of Angels – Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary” written by author and Benedictine Sister, Macrina Wiederkehr.

Macrina writes;

“Today I carried all the images of life that I could hold in my mind’s eye:  trees and flowers, bees, mourning doves and turtles, geese and eagles, deer and rabbits, lions and tigers and bears, men and women, children and angels and of course, God, the Life of all life. Such beautiful memories of life filled my soul. Moments from the past visited the empty places in my heart and renewed my reverence for life.”

As a child, Macrina  experienced a profound reverence for life. She recalls saving the turtles that crossed the road from untimely death by placing them safely across the road.

I think each of us is born with a reverence for life and that most of us are educated away from the feelings of awe and deep respect as we grow up.

Like Macrina, I’m renewing my reverence for life. And…it seems synchronicity would have to agree.

When I was writing this post, I checked my  Facebook account to catch up on recent activity. A friend had shared a link to a TED talk given by Nobel Peace Price recipient Alexander Tsiaras.

Apparently, Tsiaras used the technology he and a fellow inventor created to capture the development of a human life form from conception to birth.

It’s truly amazing and only 9 minutes long.

Suggestions for contemplation: What does reverence for life mean to you? Does society foster reverence for life?

If you are new to this blog and wonder what this is all about, I’ve given myself a 100 day “Learning about Love” challenge. So — for the next 100 days, it’s all about love. My good friend calls it a “love makeover” (hehehe).

Thank you to all who accompany me on this journey. I really appreciate the support and wonderful comments. 🙂

Wishing one and all a reverent day.

Learning about Love: Day 6

Hello My Wonderful Fellow Human Beings! I’m so excited because I have an awesome article to share with you today.

Elana Miller MD is a psychiatry resident at UCLA and an awesome writer. She is launching a new blog on July 3rd called Zen Psychiatry. I just received notice that Elana authored a guest post at Goodlife Zen. It’s titled, “how to find compassion in your most difficult moments.”

Elana uses her own experiences in residency and lessons learned to illustrate five “how-to” principles that will help you stay kind and empathic in challenging circumstances.

Be sure to check out Elana’s great words of wisdom as soon as you get a chance. Also, you may want to check out earlier posts from Elana at The Psychosphere – Experiments in Examined Living. A favourite of mine is, Zen and the Art of Not Being An Asshole.

If you are new to this blog and wonder what this is all about, I’ve given myself a 100 day “Learning about Love” challenge. So — for the next 100 days, it’s all about love. My good friend calls it a “love makeover” (hehehe).

Thank you to all who accompany me on this journey. I really appreciate the support and wonderful comments. 🙂

I created a Facebook page for The Meaning for my Life to build a community where like-minded individuals can share the meaning for their life as well as items of inspiration to help keep us focused on Love, Life and Presence. Just give us a ‘Like’ and your in (hehe). The Like button is in the right sidebar under ‘My Story’ pages.